Undirected and out of control desires could burn themselves and what is around them out.
A layer of ash remains when the fire of emotion runs out. Some call this layer of ash experience. Others call them regrets.
A disciplined mind, under the guidance of the Spirit, has the power to contain and direct tremendous emotional energy. Reason, as a byproduct of a disciplined mind, could provide a safe and strong structure for the emotions to express and manifest goals.
One of the questions I continually ask is a variation of this.
How exactly does this action you are taking help you reach your goal?
A reasonable response to this question can withstand any follow-up questions. An unreasonable response breaks down afterward, and one evokes strong emotional retorts.
How a person responds by itself reflects their depth of understanding and how effectively they are using what they know.
Below is a simple scenario related to weight loss.
A family member suffered from chronic back pain. One day, as I was passing by, I noticed that she was doing a form of situps.
I squatted down beside her and asked what was she was trying to do.
“I am trying to lose belly fat.”
“How is this going to help you do that?” I asked.
“Crunches uses my abs muscles so I can burn the fat in that area.”
“Do you know that localized fat burning doesn’t work and your abs are among the smallest muscle groups in your body that even fully activated do not burn a whole lot of calories?”
“What do you think I should do?”
“I think, you may need to study up on exactly how muscles use fat as fuel and what exercises help you burn the most fat and why.”
She graciously thanked me as she continued with her crunches.
There was no point in mentioning to her that part of her back pain came from her tight hip flexors that she was making even tighter through her situps.
I had already interfered enough without being asked. Neither my concern for her nor her back pain and increased body fat created the necessary framework for learning.
Reason must be sought and not forced. It is unreasonable to use logic as a battering ram.