In Search of Lost Health
Recently I watched, Fat Sick & Nearly Dead by Joe Cross.
It is a documentary of how an Australian, Joe Cross, climbed the top of the ladder of wealth while losing his health. It is a story of his struggle to regain lost health through changing his dietary habits.
In making of the documentary, Joe attempts to connect with others and share his struggles and insights without being pushy.
Audience responses interested me since they relate to what I do today in sharing a natural wellness coaching process. A process that is built around mastering skills of change based on universal laws in gathering, transforming and directing energy.
In one scene, at a dinner, Joe is sitting with three other individuals around a table.
The meals served were typical meals in Standards American Diet with a fitting acronym of SAD.
Joe knew how these meals cause a variety of serious health challenges. So he asks the same question in different ways.
“Would additional information make a difference in changing lifestyle habits to improve health and extend lives?”
Often the answer were a variation of “No.”
Conflict Between The Valuable And The Insignificant
I have asked similar questions for most of my consulting and coaching life.
In the beginning, I believed that significant information would lead to implementing solutions.
I was surprised that often the answer was “No.”
Later in life, I realized that even those who claimed that additional information would help them did not make any lifestyle changes after they received “valuable information.”
Most people are honest and acknowledge that additional information would not make any difference in their decision-making and implementation of those decisions. They with brutal honesty share that they would reject even effective solutions.
The process of rejecting the use of valuable information and effective solutions reflects the conflict between value and significant. What is valuable may also be insignificant.
Personal Significance & Rejecting Solutions
I know that we, as humans do not reject what we personally consider significant.
Rejecting valuable information and effective solutions means the both the information and the solutions and by extension the problem is insignificant to us.
The information, the solution, and the problem may be significant to everyone else including those who love us. But through rejecting solutions we clearly state that something else is more significant to us.
Information Consumption vs Information Use
Through unattached observation of our lives, we realize that we already have too much information at our fingertips. We also acquire and consume more information on a daily basis.
Through an unattached review of our actions, we also realize that most, if not all the information we consume do not translate to any actionable items that could help us.
Most of the information we acquire and consume daily remains in the realm of entertainment and stress relief through temporary distractions.
The majority of the information we consume daily do not bring about any real change regardless of how they are packaged and how often their packaging changes.
Determining True Significance
This step of the planning process is an honest determination of what is really significant to us as well as reviewing the relative significance of the goal we are planning to reach in relation to other events in our lives.
I have a simple starting question that I ask myself and my clients.
“On the scale of zero to ten, zero meaning I couldn’t care less and ten being I cannot live without it, how significant is this goal?”
The next follow up questions is this:
“Do my past activities support the level of significance I am assigning to the goal?”
Sometimes we assign our goal a level of relative significance of 8 out of 10. However, our actions show that we regularly commit to other activities with a relative significance level of 4 or 5. The discrepancy indicates that something is off in our evaluation.
It is important to be clear about what is off so that you can design a more effective plan. Moving forward without clarifying this disparity is a sure way not to reach results.
The second follow-up question to determine true significance is this:
“If this goal now has a higher significance than ever before, what has changed to increase the level of significance and will that event have longevity?
Consider a weight loss goal.
An upcoming photo shoot, a summer vacation, a wedding or a reunion may increase the significance level of losing weight. But they have a short timeline, and they pass quickly.
Once they pass, the significance level drops.
We tend to stay with those events that hold relative significance over a longer period.
There are other questions to determine what needs to be done.
Questions allow us to recognize strengths and weakness, threats and opportunities. Questions are the foundation of research, finding solutions and implementing them.