The path to any destination moves through the patterns of life.
Our behavioral patterns and not any single act or event impacts the quality of our experience as we move through life and our destination.
Deeper currents influence superficial ones
“Vishy, why do you always have to complicate things?“ she asked.
She was frustrated with not getting the “easy and simple” answer she was looking for. She did not realize that in many cases, simplification indicates shortcuts and in taking shortcuts we lose what is significant.
The conflict between what we believe to be significant in our hearts and mind and our actions to find simplistic, easy and quick solutions saps our energy and create stumbling blocks.
Sympathetic Nervous System & Fast Solutions
The behavior pattern to always look for the bottom line, to find the fast and easy answers and restlessly jump from one potential solution to another over-stimulates our sympathetic nervous system. Sympathetic nervous system is the part of our nerves that increases stimulation and contributes to distress (negative stress).
Significant needs in life are fewer and deeper. To realize and express them we need to know how to relax and activate our parasympathetic nervous system.
Examples of Negative Behavioral Patterns In Activation of Sympathetic Nervous System
The negative results of behavioral patterns that rely on over-activation of sympathetic nervous system and increased speed show up in nutritional imbalances.
How fast do you chew? How is your digestion? Do you rely on antacids as simple and easy solution?
Lack of chewing and distracted consumption of food, poor digestion, and many health issues are related to the sympathetic nervous system.
The behavior pattern that accepts antacids as a reliable solution misses the significance of a digestion system. Digestion system impacts every aspect of our health including the strength of our immune system and the chemical building blocks of our thoughts and emotions.
The pattern of doing things fast also shows up in short, quick and tense exercise motions. Lack of slow warm up, slow cool down and workout sessions without any stretching or minimal flexibility are examples.
Imbalanced ratios between contractions and relaxations are other examples that show up in harmful workout sessions.
In planning, emphasis on actions with minimal preparation to build a strong foundation as well as missing attempts to create a clear vision of the destination before we act are examples of the behavior pattern that is imbalanced, counter-productive and unsustainable.
I am leaving racing thoughts and frenzied emotions that play havoc with relationships and our sense of fulfillment out of the behavior patterns that focus and even demand “simple and easy“ solutions.
Significance and Retention of Results
Once our goals are achieved, it is the skill to recognize what the “significance” that helps us retain them and move toward the next level of growth.
The skill of identifying what is significant connects us to a deeper level of our consciousness. From that depth flows unshakable focus that is independent of external changes. Deeper currents influence superficial ones and not the other way around.
We Are Deep Beyond Imagining
Frustration with slow and in depth communication style assumes that we are shallow.
Many who become frustrated with my communication style, without conscious knowledge, wish to present themselves as superficial beings with superficial needs. I resist the very notion of superficiality in any one.
The spiritual masters who continue teaching me always find something significant and worthwhile beneath the layers of my superficial perception that chains me and makes me believe that I lack abilities, or I am not worthy.
Refusing to believe in skin-deep shortcomings of anyone is one way I show my gratitude for the love and care of spiritual masters.
How Do You See Yourself and Others?
Can you see yourself through the eyes of someone who sees the depth of your being through all he superficial layers we present and in that depth he finds unbound wisdom and strength?
A Technique To Connect To Our Significance
In goal setting, in evaluating my strengths and weaknesses, I imagine a spiritual master who believes in me regardless of all my shortcomings and ask, “What do you see in me that make me worthy?”
Answers don’t come easily to me. But when they come they are significant and impact all areas of life. Sometimes they are simple. So mindbogglingly simple.